Love yourself for who you are

I hate the pressure that Valentine’s day brings each year, making me feel even more lonely, like there’s something wrong with me just because I’m on my own.  Others thinking that I’m married just because of my age. Why is that okay? It’s so frustrating, not to mention irritating.  I’m only human, don’t we all crave the love of another person, however much we tell ourselves it doesn’t matter, that we’re okay without. Days like today just make that feeling seem do much bigger.  Like I’m nothing, or invisible.

But then I heard some wise words (thank you Scott Thomas), that instead of looking at being single as a negative, try to embrace the time as an opportunity, to focus on me. I need to learn to love myself first, because only then will I be able to truly love someone else. Work on being the best version of yourself but make sure you love yourself for who you are.  The cure for loneliness isn’t more people, its understanding who we are. There comes a point where you have to stop trying to escape yourself and just allow yourself.

I’ve always compared myself to others, a habit that I’m finding very hard to break. To be a person I think I ought to be and feeling anxious that I’m not.  That I’ve failed in some way because I’m different. But I haven’t, it’s okay to be on my own. Your self-worth is not found in the minds of other people. Everyone’s time to find the right person is completely different , that’s all. When I finally feel content with myself, it will shine from the inside out and only then will I be able to attract the right person into my life.  But I need to stop letting the fear hold me back. The most powerful moment in life is when you decide not to be scared anymore.  (thank you once again, Matt Haig)

You are enough.