Finding your tribe

 

How many times can you keep getting treated this way for it to sink in? They are not who you think they are. They don’t deserve you, and you  definitely don’t need them. Much easier said than done when you suffer with your self- confidence and just want people to like you. But I shouldn’t have to become someone else just to get noticed. If they can’t see me for me, then are they even worth knowing?  Getting rid of the rubbish, the things or people that bring you down, that’s what I need to do. Stop craving the acceptance of others  and start to accept myself. Others do not define you or make you the person you are. When I feel low, lonely and extremely critical of everything about who I am, this is one of the hardest things for me to see. I crave for someone to just see me, to help me out of the horrible place I keep falling into. And I think the answer lies in finding someone to love me. And I can’t see all those that already do, regardless of who I am. They love me for me. They are there whenever I need them, for a chat, or a hug or just the company. They are there to pick me back up when I  just don’t have the strength to do it myself. 

Loving someone isn’t just about finding that person to share your life with, its about all those closest to you, both friends  and family. Love is love, it comes in many shapes and forms, not just the most obvious one. And that’s why its sometimes harder to see, or we take it for granted in a way. Too eager to look for what may feel elusive to us, that we don’t see what’s been there all along. Your tribe, the ones who will always have your back, and you theirs. That unfailing love. The way a person can see something in you that you can’t see for yourself.  And when you struggle with your mental health, a tribe, a support group is the one most important thing you need. To bring you out the other side time and time again. Without that, what hope can you possibly have. We can’t always see it, but they are there. Cheering you on. And with such amazing people walking along side you, if you let them, you will start to believe (sometimes) that you are worthy of being loved.

‘The secret, Alice, is to surround yourself with people who make your heart smile. Its then, only then, that you’ll find Wonderland’

I wish I could show you when you are lonely, or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being’ (Hafez)